I few months ago I overheard a group of people at a restaurant who were talking about somebody that wasn't present. In the middle of a sentence, one of them stops and says "I don't consider this gossiping", and proceeds to continue. I got to thinking- whether you consider it gossiping or not, you are still slandering somebody that is not present, and that still makes it gossiping whether you believe it is or not.
How often do we try to justify our situation to dissuade the perspectives of others? If we claim Christianity when we are in the presence of believers, and we tell others we will be praying for them and try to assure them that God is in control, but then we go and live our lives by using inappropriate language constantly and doing inappropriate things- do we really think that it makes us a Christian just because we say we are? How often my heart breaks when somebody is around me, knowing I'm of faith, and try to come off like they are too, but then their lives reveal otherwise. My heart breaks for them, because if they truly knew God or were working towards a relationship with them, they'd at least try to please the creator a little bit. Or they would at least feel guilty about their actions, and not celebrate those behaviors with others.
Others cannot believe you are a Christian if you have no actions to back them up.
Just because you don't consider getting drunk a sin, doesn't make it any less of a sin. Just because it was a tiny lie, doesn't make it any less of a lie. Just because it doesn't have a heartbeat yet....doesn't make it any less of a baby.
What I"m getting at is it doesn't matter what your perspective is, if it doesn't line up with scripture, then your perspective is irrelevant. Seek the Holy words and find out how God intends for you to live your life; don't just go by what "feels" right.